Dear Beautiful, Brave, and Wonderfully Single Woman,
As the month of love comes to a close, I want you to know, I see you. I know that navigating the dating scene feels like walking through a minefield while wearing heels. Or, if you’re like some women, it’s more like walking through a forest of bad dates, hoping that one day you’ll spot that rare unicorn — the man who shares your faith, values, and taste in Netflix shows.
But let me tell you, girl, hope is not lost.
As a therapist who works with couples and individuals (mostly women), I can tell you this: you’re not alone in feeling like the dating world has lost its charm. Whether it’s the endless swiping on dating apps (which let’s be honest, feel more like online shopping for a husband than actual matchmaking), or those awkward first dates that feel more like job interviews, it’s easy to lose faith.
But here’s the truth — God’s timing is better than any dating app algorithm. Seriously. I know it’s hard, but don’t let that frustration rob you of the beauty of waiting and preparing for the right relationship. God sees you. He knows your heart, your desires, and even your quirky preferences (yes, He knows you love a good dad joke).
Here’s How to Keep Hope Alive in the Midst of Dating Drama:
- Embrace the Waiting
Waiting is not wasted time. This is your season to grow. So, when you’re feeling lonely or discouraged, remember that God is preparing you for something special — a relationship built on faith, love, and shared purpose. If you’re focusing on becoming the best version of yourself, you’re already on the right path. - Stop Settling for Less
It’s tempting to lower your standards when the dating scene feels grim. But trust me on this one — you deserve a man who respects you, loves God, and has a passion for life. Don’t settle for the guy who just “checks some boxes.” Wait for the one who makes your heart skip a beat and challenges you to grow. - Laugh at the Awkwardness
First dates can be weird. Really weird. But here’s the deal: Laugh it off. If a date feels like a scene from a romantic comedy gone wrong, at least you’ll have a funny story to tell your future husband. If nothing else, you’re building resilience in the process. Plus, God has a sense of humor — He probably chuckled when that guy spilled coffee on your lap. - Pray for Patience, But Also for Discernment
Pray not just for the right guy to show up, but for the wisdom to recognize him when he does. God won’t lead you down a path that isn’t good for you, so ask Him to open your eyes to the qualities that matter most: faith, kindness, integrity, and a sense of humor (because let’s face it, life is better with someone who can laugh at themselves). - Know Your Worth
You are worthy of love, respect, and partnership — don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. If you’re feeling discouraged, remember: The best things in life come when you least expect them, and the right person will cherish you the way God cherishes you. Hold on to that truth.
Final Thoughts:
If the dating scene feels like it’s been in a perpetual winter, trust that spring is coming. God knows exactly where you are, and He has plans for you that are far beyond your imagination (Jeremiah 29:11). In the meantime, enjoy the journey of self-discovery, faith-building, and a bit of humor along the way.
So keep your head high, your standards higher, and know that love — real, lasting love — is worth the wait.
With love, patience, and a lot of humor,
Deborah Richelieu, LMFT
Therapist & Hopeful Romantic